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The Miserables

So you know how everyone gets sad sometimes? And then later some people seem so happy, but you don’t? Which means they are fucking liars. Or are liars themselves.

While other people may seem happy, it is because they are pretending. They are superficial. Putting on a facade and faking success.Trying to look good and outdo everyone. But only part of the time. Because the rest of the time they are happy, and you’re the miserable one. Ha ha! Sucks to be you.

Other people aren’t happy all the time, yet they are happy some of the time, while depressed people are typically happy less often. These joyous-looking people still feel sadness, but they find ways of reframing it, or they experience their sadness privately. On other occasions, some people even pretend to be sad for pity purposes or to get everyone to be sympathetic to them. But similar to before, sometimes they are just miserable, not pretending to be.

Everyone has natural ups and downs, and that can be fun. So the goal isn’t to eliminate misery, but rather it’s to be happy when things are happy, and to let yourself be sad when things are sad. Then again, if you want to keep your misery, then that’s a part of your natural behavior, so just do what you want. To do. And Maroon 5!

Feelings can be a competition. Where you want to feel something more than another person, or less. Each person is different, and comparing will not always guarantee that you feel the way you want to. It’s a good idea to consider what feelings you want to experience. Also, when and how you want to feel them.

So French musicals have titles that are relevant in English. And feelings continue to be felt by those who feel them.

(Note: significant ghost writing and some musical recommendations occurred.)

You Are Overthinking It

So you know how you are overthinking it?

Good!

It’s okay to overthink things, because it makes you safe and smart and stuff. The issue is when you have things you want to do, and can’t, because thinking is stopping you.

The solution, is to make sure that you take care of thinking through the biggest dangers, then just do what you wanted to do. If it’s not going to fuck anything up too much, then it’s okay.

And like with making decisions, it helps to write things down before, during, or after the thinking process. Lists! And notes! And warnings! And evaluations! And assorted comments to yourself!

If you feel stupid, because you’re thinking too much, then feel stupid. Looking stupid sucks. But it’s okay. You get used to it.

So overthink and such.

(Note: some ghost writing, editing, and additional suggestions occurred.)

Separated Metaphors VII

There are three ways to get rid of a stain. Well at least three. You can remove it through bleach or something akin to it. You can cover it up with a patch or some nice design. Or you can stain the rest of the material so that it’s all homogeneous. The last option is perhaps the most dramatic, but also likely the most successful.

If you try bleach, something will always remain and you will be reminded of the stain again and again. If you cover it up with a patch then you will always notice it and be afraid to show what is underneath it. But if you accept the stain and then stain the rest of the material, you will find a new equilibrium.

Bit by Bit

So you know how sometimes you want to keep your depression?

As in, you want to keep it. Not get rid of it.

If that’s the case, then do so. Since you want to.

And if you want to alleviate your symptoms, then do so. Since you want to.

Let it go little by little at your own pace… This is something you’ve lived with and grown to accept as part of yourself.

So keep it the way you choose, in whatever capacity is preferable to you .

(Note: with some ghost suggestions.)

Reunite and Conquer

So you know how you end up fighting yourself? And the conflict in your mind can drive you crazy? Er. Crazier.

 Your mind has two hemispheres. Typically. When it’s difficult to make a decision, avoid sabotaging yourself, manage internal criticism, or other internal actions, it’s because you may be truly experiencing a conflict between parts of your mind.

Your depression plays you against yourself. It takes your most valuable assets, your intelligence, beauty, physical strength, various skill sets, admirable qualities, and finds a way to make that your downfall.

Part of your mind may convince you that critical thinking is the only skill that matters. That it’s worth staying miserable, in conflict with your other thoughts and feelings so that you can continue to maintain your ability to see the negative, or flaws in everything and everyone.

You can keep the critical thinking, and also manage its ability to convince you that nothing else is of value. Arguing back to defend the other parts of your mind and related skills, desires, or qualities, keeps you from forgetting the rest of yourself. Giving too much attention to your depression, can mean other parts of you remain underdeveloped or unexpressed, which can lead to self-anger and frustration.

So unite with yourself in order to tame your depression. Recognize that it is an important part of you, yet it is only one part. It’s good to remember the rest of you as well.

(Note: more ghost writing occurred!)

Experiences

Denying past experiences or parts of yourself can be stagnant. A part of you keeps returning to those things because you haven’t accepted them. It is sad to say good bye to those things, because they were a part of you, and so you might want to keep them that way or want to avoid things changing. Those parts of you and experiences will have always been a part of you, and experienced.

Wanting to change yourself, does not mean denying yourself. Wanting to accept yourself, does not mean that you will want to keep everything the same. Wanting to accept yourself, and change, works.

(And for those who get the joke, it’s Berlioz. Everybody wants to be a cat…)

Progress is…

Progress is…

That’s not it though, because progress is not an illusion, it’s just that you keep letting your bar rise with each time you get better, you can’t just jump into everything after you’ve healed a tiny bit, you have to let yourself fully heal before you start stressing the wound, otherwise it will keep re-opening and you’ll end up having trouble again.

It is important that when you are doing better, you don’t let your expectations of yourself rise too much. Just because you have healed somewhat does not mean that you are cured, and that all of a sudden you can do everything you do when you are not depressed. If you try to do everything too quickly, then it makes sense that you will end up being overwhelmed and becoming depressed again.  You have to make sure to set your base zero, and then gradually measure your progress from there.