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Murder on the Brain

So you know how sometimes you might consider killing people?

When you feel the need to cull, remember that is probably unnecessary.

Yet if you get impatient, you might choose to contemplate murder as a solution.

It is likely you can find other solutions to avoid doing something that can never be undone.

Anything that is in this world already, exists, and to murder something out of this world, is to risk losing something that could be useful.

So when you have the thoughts related to killing, consider them, and consider the alternatives.

(Note: written with some external direction.)

The Orphan Complex

Sometimes people want fucked up shit to happen to them because they are stupid, and because it makes them feel like they have a reason for why they feel so fucked up… They are looking for an external reason for the internal depression.

The result is that sometimes hearing about bad things happening to other people makes them wish something bad would happen to them, means that when something bad does happen they feel good about it.

And because they want to be interesting, so pain does that for them. As in, reading stories about orphans and then imagining that you are one, even though you should be grateful to have parents. (This can also mean you are upset with your parents. Perhaps they have something to do with the root cause of your depression.)

It makes you a “bad person.” Yeah. It is still a result of the depression, so when you feel better, that victim complex diminishes on its own. If it is making you upset that you think this way, alleviating your overall depression will alter this mindset as well.

(Note: with some additional ghost comments.)

Close Control

So you know how you’re a judgmental bitch? And sometimes this seems to prove useful, and other times this makes people want to fuck you up or avoid you?

Being “too judgmental” is a way to isolate oneself by believing that you’re better than everyone, or by other people not being able to cope with your analytical thinking. At times, it’s okay to lie about the most critical truths you can come up with, or soften them to fit in with your society.

But when you exert the effort to shut yourself up, that’s doing something nice. Thinking judgmental thoughts is okay. It happens. Everyone does it. Sometimes you say them. Sometimes you spare people. And that’s a kindness.

That’s something you don’t have to do, and yet you do it. Because you care about your impact on other people. And caring about your impact on other people is a kindness.

Also, if you find yourself hating on everyone, perhaps that’s because everyone sucks. And you can try to communicate in a way where hopefully they will stop, or you can spend some time on your own.

So judging things has uses and restraining judgement also has uses. Figuring out when to share one’s thoughts or observations can take calibration, and yet doing so at all means you’re being considerate.

(Note: some ghost suggestions occurred.)

Separated Metaphors VIII

So you know how sometimes you find yourself dwelling on something? Like you have thoughts clotted in your mind, and want to cut them out of your head, yet are scared because they are still a part of you.

Whether it’s obsessing over something trivial or traumatic, there’s always a reason behind why those particular thoughts keep re-occuring. And since they connect to other thoughts or experiences, dwelling can be useful because self-reflection can lead to growth and greater self-awareness. Especially if you’re focused on one cluster of thoughts, and then you find out that you’re really trying to process a different cluster.

Rather than needing to cut those thoughts out, figuring out how to understand and dissolve them so that they process naturally is the better option. Psyche surgery can be too strong given that clot may be something you need to express to yourself or others.

Brains have natural defense mechanisms and drains, so they’ll activate after you’ve figured out why your thoughts are clustering and clogging your mind. Instead of hating yourself for dwelling, using obsessive thoughts as a guide to your mind can provide you with a chance to become even better than before, and help strengthen mind-defenses.

Your thoughts came from you. Resolve clusters, and let your mind process.

 

Keeping the Habit

“Inspired by Sara’s struggle with sugar addiction and her deep love of Linkin Park song titles. Also, because it’s Halloween! SO EAT CANDY. I will. Preferably in front of Sara to make her cry with jealousy.”

(Yet another idea drafted a while ago… The ghost writer is cruel, yet still convincing. “And beware of dentists!”)

If you want to manage your time better, then work on that. Though it may not happen right away, if you keep practicing your skills, you’ll get there.

If you want to change any behaviors, go for it. Though you can’t just sit around, or expect it to happen so quickly, with effort you’ll be able to adapt.

And if you want to keep habits, in any capacity, then you can make that decision as well.

Work Hard Work Hard

“Inspired by the old adage, and those who can’t do the playing part… Si-won and crew… Said the ghost writer. Who didn’t contribute. Because he too is a lazy bitch. Happy Halloween again!”

(Another draft idea from a while ago.)

Some people feel more comfortable when they’re working, and when people get in their way, that’s just a hassle.

Work as hard as you want. Just make sure to track your productivity and watch the stress.

Working and then working some more can build momentum. Sometimes it’s important to take breaks, rest, and then return to working. Sometimes it’s okay to continue working because you feel very motivated.

You know how you work, so you decide when to work and for how long.

Time Spent is Time Wasted

“I, the spooky ghost writer, among other names, want this published before Halloween. Sara drafted the idea a while ago, but hadn’t published it, so I was all, ‘Quote. Make it a direct comment. Lazy bitch. Quote.’ Happy Pre-Halloween. Trick or Treat! You sad fucks, you!”

(The ghost writer is rude, yet convincing. And so…)

You’re always wasting your time. You could always be doing something better. And you could always be doing something worse. And more than that, you could always be more productive. At either.

Yet, it doesn’t really matter, because how you choose to spend your time is how you choose to spend your time. Who really cares if it’s wasted?

The Miserables

So you know how everyone gets sad sometimes? And then later some people seem so happy, but you don’t? Which means they are fucking liars. Or are liars themselves.

While other people may seem happy, it is because they are pretending. They are superficial. Putting on a facade and faking success.Trying to look good and outdo everyone. But only part of the time. Because the rest of the time they are happy, and you’re the miserable one. Ha ha! Sucks to be you.

Other people aren’t happy all the time, yet they are happy some of the time, while depressed people are typically happy less often. These joyous-looking people still feel sadness, but they find ways of reframing it, or they experience their sadness privately. On other occasions, some people even pretend to be sad for pity purposes or to get everyone to be sympathetic to them. But similar to before, sometimes they are just miserable, not pretending to be.

Everyone has natural ups and downs, and that can be fun. So the goal isn’t to eliminate misery, but rather it’s to be happy when things are happy, and to let yourself be sad when things are sad. Then again, if you want to keep your misery, then that’s a part of your natural behavior, so just do what you want. To do. And Maroon 5!

Feelings can be a competition. Where you want to feel something more than another person, or less. Each person is different, and comparing will not always guarantee that you feel the way you want to. It’s a good idea to consider what feelings you want to experience. Also, when and how you want to feel them.

So French musicals have titles that are relevant in English. And feelings continue to be felt by those who feel them.

(Note: significant ghost writing and some musical recommendations occurred.)

You Are Overthinking It

So you know how you are overthinking it?

Good!

It’s okay to overthink things, because it makes you safe and smart and stuff. The issue is when you have things you want to do, and can’t, because thinking is stopping you.

The solution, is to make sure that you take care of thinking through the biggest dangers, then just do what you wanted to do. If it’s not going to fuck anything up too much, then it’s okay.

And like with making decisions, it helps to write things down before, during, or after the thinking process. Lists! And notes! And warnings! And evaluations! And assorted comments to yourself!

If you feel stupid, because you’re thinking too much, then feel stupid. Looking stupid sucks. But it’s okay. You get used to it.

So overthink and such.

(Note: some ghost writing, editing, and additional suggestions occurred.)