So you know how everyone else has fucked you over? Like your friends, family, society at large, and really just everyone? And it’s really not your fault, and you wish Robin Williams would come and tell you so over and over and over and over again?

Bad news. It is your fault. You deserve what you get. And if you are getting shitty things, then that’s what you deserve. Because you’re alive and you are taking away from the world just by being so.

Good news. It is not only your fault. And when you get not so shitty things, or even some cool things, you deserve them too. Because you’re alive and you are giving back to the world just by being so.

People have probably done some really fucked up stuff to you. And maybe you’ve done some really fucked up stuff to other people. Or maybe you haven’t. And maybe other people haven’t. After you’ve tallied up the score… Fuck it all. You’re fucking depressed. You’ve got negative points. How that happened is important to remember since you don’t want it to keep happening. Still, just as important is that you figure out ways to manage your misery, regardless of the fault.

Fault or blame only gets you so far. Because hating on people who harm you really just fucks you up. Not to mention most people don’t give a shit about you and won’t really care if they fucked you up. The question isn’t who has fucked you up. It’s who fucked you up that had a responsibility to not do that. And how can you convey to them that they didn’t fulfill their responsibility. And how can you make sure that you don’t fuck up your responsibilities and just start a new cycle of people fucking each other up.

So you’re at fault for your fucking mess of a life. Or more accurately, you have the primary responsibility to figure it out and clean it up. That doesn’t mean that everyone else is off the hook. There are other people who have responsibilities and promises to keep. Find those with the strongest ties and hold them accountable. And if you can’t, find people to make new ties and new responsibilities that won’t suck so much. Above all else, when you’ve got people who do recognize their impact on others: value that. It’s fucking rare, and damn precious.