So you know how sometimes life is finally going your way? And all of a sudden everything has fallen into place and feels right? So of course this means that you feel incredibly guilty about your new found perfect life?

Hm. Well, if your guilt is still there then your life is definitely not perfect. Because guilt is a big blob consuming everything and then leaving a slimy trail of self-loathing in its wake. And beyond the guilt, there’s probably still plenty of things going wrong in your life. Even in your bliss, don’t forget about them!

Now why when you are at your best would you want to think about the negative things in your life? Isn’t the goal to heal your depression, and to not think about those things? Absolutely. Still, even when you’re not depressed, negative things do happen. And when these things happen, you need to think about them in order to deal with them. And when you think about them, you may feel upset about them. And when you feel upset about them, you may feel guilty because you have such a perfect life and yet here you are getting all upset about shit. So the point is: you get to think about negative things as much as you do or do not want to, even when things are going well.

You deserve to feel happy without any guilt. That gnawing guilt of yours is unfair. It is a holdover from your depression, and it should be put in its place. Meaning, recognized and then invalidated. And it is invalid. Because as was just mentioned, there are still things going wrong in your life. Maybe they are small things, like getting a paper cut. Maybe they are larger things, like getting a big paper cut. Maybe they are huge things, like getting a big paper cut and being stabbed at the same time. The thing is that no matter what’s going wrong, or how big or small it is, you do not have to feel guilty about being frustrated when it mars up your life. If you want to, okay then. It’s your decision.

Those imperfections are unfortunate side-effects of being alive. And responding to them with anger, or hurt, or sadness, or amusement, or however else you respond, is just how it goes.  No one has a perfect life, and there is nothing wrong with recognizing the flaws in your life, and wishing they weren’t there. Just because you don’t like certain things about your life, that doesn’t mean that you are not grateful for the good things that you have. It does not mean that you are taking it for granted.

So your life isn’t perfect. And it’s not likely to become perfect. There will be plenty of things that are wrong even when you are not depressed. That’s totally okay. And if you get angry or sad or whatever because of those things, then that’s totally okay as well.